Managing Household Chaos: Tips for Moms with ADHD
Let’s be real: managing a household with ADHD is like trying to organize a rave in a wind tunnel. You’ve got kids yelling, dinner burning, and a calendar full of events you forgot to add reminders for. If this sounds like your daily life, welcome to the club. But don’t worry—chaos can be managed.
The ADHD Brain vs. Daily Routines: Moms with ADHD often struggle with executive dysfunction. Translation: starting tasks, prioritizing them, and actually finishing them can feel nearly impossible, especially when there are a million interruptions. According to ADDitude Magazine, routines are a lifeline, but only if they’re flexible, simple, and dopamine-friendly.
Strategy #1: Keep It Simple, Sis (K.I.S.S.) Don’t try to be a Pinterest-perfect planner mama. Use a dry-erase board or a visual daily flow chart for you and the kids. Break things down into mini routines—like a “morning flow” or “evening wind-down”—instead of a strict schedule. ADHD brains thrive with short sprints, not marathons.
Strategy #2: Use ADHD-Friendly Tools. Here’s what can help:
Time Timer: A visual timer that shows how much time is left.
Todoist or Trello: Task apps that let you brain-dump and organize your chaos into boards.
Alexa or Google Assistant: Set up recurring voice reminders and alarms (trust me, lifesaver).
Color-coded calendars: One color per family member = instant sanity.
Strategy #3: Create ADHD-Approved Zones. Think stations—not full-on room overhauls. A snack zone. A homework zone. A drop zone for keys, bags, and all the random stuff. Label everything. Bonus points if it's cute and makes you feel like a boss.
Strategy #4: Boundaries ARE Self-Care. You are not everyone's everything, every second. Set quiet hours, delegate chores (even if they do it “wrong”), and stop saying yes to every school volunteer role. ADHD burnout is real, and you deserve time to breathe.
Therapist Tip: ADHD expert Dr. Sharon Saline says, "Structure combined with empathy is key." That means building a system that works with your brain, not against it, while giving yourself grace.
Interview Spotlight: Netta from Chatterbrain Mommy Podcast “I learned that setting a timer for 15 minutes and blasting 90’s or good ole gospel music while cleaning helps me finish what I start. It’s weird, but it works. ADHD-friendly hacks are all about joy and movement.” — Netta
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Mother’s Day Reflections: Embracing the Chaos and Joy of Motherhood with ADHD
Happy Mother's Day to all the mothers, caregivers, guardians, foster mothers, adoptive mothers, grandmothers, and teachers who look after hundreds of children as their own each year.
With Mother's Day today, I sit here pondering the beautiful chaos that comprises my life. Being a mother with ADHD is a life of one-of-a-kind challenges and surprises of delight.
I homeschool my children, work the night shift as a postpartum doula, and operate both an online and bringing our reselling business back to life after my husband’s detrimental accident last year.
It's a life that calls for flexibility, determination, and a sense of humor.
The Dance of Homeschooling with ADHD
Homeschooling with ADHD is like playing an orchestra where each instrument has its own mind. Some days it's beautiful; other days it's a distraction symphony. I've learned that rules are necessary, but so is flexibility. We have a routine, but it's more of a plan than a schedule. If a lesson isn't going well, we change gears. If the sun is shining too brightly to be ignored, we go outside and learn.
Visuals are my favorite things. Bulletin boards, colored charts, and checklists remind us to stay on track. I also use alarms and reminders to help us make it through topic transitions. These are not just for my children—they're for me as well.
Night Shifts and the Art of Adaptation
Working at night as a postpartum doula is another aspect of my already complicated existence. Helping new mothers navigate their most vulnerable moments is immeasurably fulfilling, yet it means my sleep cycle is irregular. I sleep when possible and survive on caffeine and sheer willpower.
This nightlife style requires organization. I precook meals in advance, set study materials out in advance, and talk frankly to my family members about our unique timetable. We're in it together, and I appreciate that they accommodate my schedule.
Building and Rebuilding: The Entrepreneurial Spirit
It's both exciting and exhausting to have an online business and revive my reselling business. ADHD gives rise to a torrent of ideas and the urge for creativity but renders it challenging to concentrate and stay organized.
I've learned to utilize a hyperfocus period for productive time and forgive myself during distraction periods. I organize projects through task management tools to remain on top of tasks and create realistic goals so that I do not end up being burned out. Small successes remind me to remain encouraged and also understand the progress achieved.
The Power of Nature and Daily Grounding
Amidst the turmoil, nature is where I get my sanity. Every day, I spend a minute to step outside, get the grass between my toes, and inhale deeply. It is this little act that grounds me, allowing me to get a moment of peace and concentration. It's a reminder every day that, despite the chaos, there is beauty and peace to be found.
These little doses of the great outdoors aren't just a corrective thing—necessities. They get me back to me and facilitate the emotional grounding required to care for my loved ones and pursue my vocation.
Embracing the Journey with Love and Laughter
Motherhood with ADHD is a journey of self-discovery, resilience, and unshakeable love. It's learning to love the imperfections, finding beauty in small moments, and laughing through the chaos. I've learned to be compassionate with myself, to seek help when needed, and to honor the unique gifts that ADHD brings to my life.
This Mother's Day, I honor all mothers on their individual paths. Your creativity, resilience, and love are the threads that sewn together make up the beautiful tapestry of your family's story.
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How I Overcame Decision Fatigue on My Birthday (And How You Can Too)
Okay, let's talk about something real: decision fatigue. If you have ADHD, you'll know exactly what I'm saying.
It's that mental burnout that happens after making one too many decisions—big or small. You've probably had it happen when you're deciding what to wear, deciding what to eat for the day, or even deciding what to do on your birthday.
And trust me, that last one can get pretty messy.
I recently reached rock bottom with decision fatigue while trying to organize my birthday.
The short version: it was a hot mess.
But after all the hemming and hawing, I managed to sort out a way to wrestle the chaos back into control and push forward.
So I decided to share with you my story and how you can apply these techniques to remain out of the decision spiral.
Decision Fatigue + ADHD = A Recipe for Disaster
Decision fatigue sets in when your brain gets depleted from having too many options.
And if you have ADHD, that depletion is even greater because your brain is already working in overdrive to maintain focus and deal with tasks.
Small decisions turn into mountains. And the more decisions you must make, the worse it is.
I experienced this myself when I was planning to prepare for my birthday.
My original plan? A trip to Florida. Then a massive flight crisis struck as a result of one plane crash after another, and my anxiety skyrocketed completely.
I suddenly didn't know where I was heading or even what I would do.
Should I stick near home?
Should I be traveling somewhere else?
Should I just cancel everything and take a nap?
I was paralyzed by choice.
How I Survived My Birthday Decision Fatigue
This birthday choice started off with a whole lot of "What the heck am I going to do?" I couldn't figure out if I wanted to chill, relax, or some place more active but crowded.
Procrastination came in next. I was continually flipping my brain back and forth, but something didn't feel right.
I didn't want to go too crowded or too out there in the middle of nowhere. Then it hit me: keep it simple.
After much to-and-fro, I finally settled on a low-key plan: something simple.
With my husband's prodding (thank God for him), I chose something that was not too complicated and low-key.
And guess what?
It was just what I needed.
Sometimes, overthinking just adds to the stress.
But that wasn't the initial time I was overcome with decision fatigue that day.
When I visited to get my nails done, the same thing occurred. I hemmed and hawed about colors and designs for eternity. I'm talking about eternity.
Do I be bold?
Do I be basic?
Do I go neutral or bright?
Eventually, I told the nail technician to just freestyle the design, and guess what?
It turned out great!
Having the freedom of not having to decide on everything was a lifesaver.
What You Can Learn from This Chaos
I get it, options can appear to be piling up and you don't know how to break free from the madness. But there are ways of managing decision fatigue so that it doesn't manage your life.
Below are some tips that work for me, and they can work for you, too:
1. Limit the Decisions You Make
This is huge for people with ADHD. The fewer choices you make, the higher. Start off by simplifying your routines—what you eat, what you wear, entertainment. For example, prepare all of your food for the week so you're not faced with making a daily choice of what to eat. If you plan out your wardrobe in advance, you won't be left spending hours gazing at your closet.
2. Use Tools to Stay Organized
Get some structure into your life. Checklists, calendars, and even ADHD-sanctioned apps can save you from spiraling. Writing down your to-do's keeps you organized regarding what needs to be done without needing to make a decision every time you think about it. Further, using timers or the Pomodoro Technique (work for 25 minutes, then break for 5 minutes) can keep you focused and work through tasks without being overwhelmed.
3. Just Prioritize
Not everything has to be a priority. It's easy to get overwhelmed in attempting to decide everything at one time. Rank what really does matter. Cut through the chaos and get on with the serious stuff first. Trust me, you don't need to muddle through all the decisions. My birthday? I made it easy because I knew the rest of the choices would just upset me.
4. Let Someone Else Take the Wheel Sometimes
This is a doozy. If you're in a rut, ask for help. Don't be afraid to let someone else handle something. I was trying to figure out what to do on my birthday, and my husband rescued me by pointing me in the direction of something low-key. Whenever possible, have someone else handle a decision or two, even something as minuscule as picking a nail color or where to eat dinner.
5. Use a Framework for Big Decisions
Having a plan helps a lot. If you're going to make a bigger decision (like travel plans or something work-related), use a simplified model to decide. If you're taking too long to decide, divide the decision into parts. I like to put time limits on decisions. If I don't figure it out within 10 minutes, I make a choice and stick with it.
6. Take Breaks—Seriously
Your brain needs rest, especially when you’re juggling a million decisions. Take frequent breaks throughout your day. Step away from work, take a walk, or even just lie down for a few minutes. This helps clear your mind and avoid feeling totally drained.
7. Give Yourself Permission to Say “I Don’t Know”
You don't have to make all of your choices perfect. Every once in a while, you can just let off the pressure. If you are stuck, feel free to say "I don't know" and try something else. The world won't end if you didn't select the perfect birthday vacation spot or nail color. Actually, accepting imperfection might make you less tense.
To sum it all up, decision fatigue isn't funny, especially when you have ADHD. But it doesn't have to control your life.
The trick is to keep it simple, have boundaries, and realize that not every decision needs to be "the right decision."
From my birthday adventure to getting my nails done, I learned that the best choices happen when you refrain from overanalyzing and simply let go of needing to be perfect.
So the next time you find yourself stuck in a decision-making mode, make it simpler. Prioritize what matters most, step away, and get help when you need it.
Trust me, it'll make a world of a difference.
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How to Help Your Homeschool Child Get Organized (When You’re Brain is Unorganized)
The term "organized chaos" isn't just a catchphrase if you're anything like me; it's a way of life. I frequently feel like I'm barely surviving as a mom with ADHD who homeschools. Nevertheless, here I am, attempting to teach my children the same skill that I find most difficult: organizing.
I recognize the irony. The good news is that you don't need to be a naturally organized person to help your children learn how to be organized. Teaching them can actually be a learning experience for both of you. Even if you've never used a planner before, you can still come up with a method that works if you have a little humor, patience, and ingenuity.
Learning Alongside My Kids
I’ll be honest: when I first tried to get my child to organize his homeschool work, it was an absolute disaster. Papers everywhere, lost pencils, and forgotten assignments. I tried color-coded folders, elaborate schedules, and even bought a fancy planner, but within days, it all fell apart.
That’s when I realized I was approaching it the wrong way. Instead of trying to teach a system that I wasn’t even good at, I needed to make it a team effort. So, I reframed my approach:
💡 Instead of "Let me teach you how to be organized," I switched to "Let’s learn this together."
That one change made a world of difference.
1. Start Small & Keep It Simple
Burnout is inevitable if you attempt to change your homeschooling system all at once (for you and your child). Rather, begin with tiny, doable measures.
✅ Choose one thing at a time—maybe organizing their daily assignments or setting up a routine for putting supplies away.
✅ Set a timer for five minutes at the end of the day to do a quick tidy-up of the homeschool area.
What is working for us: We started with a "Clean Desk Challenge." At the end of school or when I want my 6-year-old to clean his toys, we set a timer and spend five minutes organizing our workspace. No pressure, no stress—just a quick reset. Small steps, big impact.
2. Make It Visual (Because ADHD Brains Need It!)
I cannot rely on memory alone to keep us on track. So, I turned to visual supports—the lifeline of every ADHD household.
📌 Charts, color-coded labels, and sticky notes are our best friends.
📖 What worked for us: We created a homeschool binder where my child can see everything at a glance. Inside, we have:
A checklist of subjects for the day
A simple, flexible "unscheduled schedule"
A place to store completed work so nothing gets lost
My son loves checking things off. It gives him a sense of accomplishment, and I love that it keeps him on track without me nagging.
3. Make It a Game (Because Fun = Engagement)
Let’s be real—if it’s not fun, ADHD brains check out. So, we turned organizing into a game.
🎯 How we do it:
We play a game called "Speedy Clean"—where we race against a timer to see who can finish their task first.
My job: Organizing the papers and books
His job: Sorting crayons, markers, and supplies into their proper spots
Guess who wins every time? Hint: It’s not me. 😂
🏆 Bonus Tip: Add rewards! Stickers, small treats, or extra screen time work wonders for motivation.
4. Lead by Example (Even If You Struggle)
This part is hard because—let’s be honest—if I were naturally organized, we wouldn’t be having this conversation. But the truth is, kids learn from what they see, not just what we say.
What worked for us: I started doing one small, visible habit every day—making my bed.
One morning, my son saw me doing it and proudly announced: "I’m going to make my bed too, Mommy!" It wasn’t perfect, but he tried, and that’s what matters.
Moral of the story: Your kids don’t need you to be perfect. They just need to see you trying.
5. Celebrate Progress (Not Perfection)
Organization isn’t about doing things perfectly every time—it’s about building habits.
🙌 How we celebrate: We have "Organization Fridays." Every Friday, we:
Do a quick reset of our homeschool area
Reflect on what worked that week
Treat ourselves to something fun (a movie, game night, or a treat)
These little victories keep us motivated and remind us that progress is more important than perfection.
Final Thoughts: Growing Together
Helping your homeschooled child get organized when you feel entirely unorganized yourself can feel impossible. But the truth is, it’s one of the most humbling and rewarding things you can do.
💡 You don’t have to be a master of organization to teach it. You just have to be willing to learn alongside your child.
💡 The goal isn’t perfection—it’s progress. And along the way, you’re teaching them not just how to arrange their schoolwork, but how to be resilient, adaptable, and problem-solving thinkers.
That’s a win for both of you.
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Why You're Failing at ADHD: Undiagnosed and Misdiagnosed in Black Women
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Jessica Felicio
As a Black Woman with ADHD, I was both misdiagnosed and undiagnosed as a teenager and as an adult. I was a busy child, but not busy enough to be considered hyperactive.
I was considered to be busy, not bad, because my mama didn’t want me to have the concept that I was bad or had behavior issues. Another symptom that I had when I was a kid was that I was a “chatterbox.”
Well, that hasn’t changed much at all, and sometimes my mouth moves faster than my mind. I talked for hours about different things, and I was just considered gifted.
I knew how to behave when in public and was just simply silly acting when at home. My parents did not look at me as if something was wrong with me because I was deemed to be so intelligent.
They thought this because, according to my teachers and how they observed me, I learned objectives faster than the average child my age and retained so much information.
Now, I cannot say this in today’s day and time because I have more of a “chatterbrain.”
Fast forward to today’s time. As an adult, I was misdiagnosed as having ADD for years, beginning at age 31.
The first psychiatrist and therapist that I saw stated that I had ADD because my attention span was very short during my sessions and I did not make eye contact for a long period.
Since they weren’t my boo thang, I didn’t realize that I had to look them in the eye, so why would I do so in the first place?
In my eyes, they were simply there to know my business and not to help with anything that I couldn’t help with myself.
Then I went to one psychiatrist, and she informed me that my diagnosis was incorrect.
I was appalled because I knew that I did have attention issues. The psychiatrist based their diagnosis on what was observed and talked about in the office, as well as any notes that the therapist wrote in their sessions.
I was then given the correct diagnosis of having ADHD.
Both my therapist and psychiatrist explained to me the symptoms that I resonated with as to why I now have ADHD and not ADD.
'What's wrong with me?' ADHD undiagnosed in Black girls
This type of misdiagnosis happens all the time to Black women specifically.
Some psychiatric physicians will not look deeply into what is going on with the patient based on their symptoms, conversation, or how they are acting. Instead, these physicians will just come up with something on their own or look it up online without really utilizing observation or testing.
When the physicians do this, they will just prescribe a specific medication, which entails more issues than before.
Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. ~Aristotle
Overall, there is no better teacher than you.
It is important to understand your diagnosis and not self-diagnose but to know what is going on with your body and mind.
This will save a lot of misdiagnosing and underdiagnosing time for physicians if there is a clearer understanding to begin with.
This all starts with recognizing symptoms and knowing when something isn’t quite right.
Have you ever been undiagnosed or misdiagnosed with a mental illness?
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