ADHD & Hormonal Imbalance: The Hidden Struggle in Women
Let's get into it, sis—hormones. They are the ones pulling the strings, and when they are out of whack? Whoa, it's a rollercoaster ride with no seatbelt.
What Is Hormonal Imbalance, Then?
Hormones are your body's chemical messengers, and when they are out of kilter, it's a domino effect in the form of symptoms.
The Endocrine Society reports that hormonal imbalance affects nearly 80% of women throughout their lifetime, and most of us don't know it.
The Signs That Your Hormones Might Be Off Balance
Mood swings like none other
Fatigue, which no nap can cure
Heavy or Irregular Periods
Weight gain (especially in the abdominal area)
Brain clouding and forgetfulness
Depression, anxiety, or irritability
Does it ring a bell for you?
It's not your imagination. It might be your hormones.
Regular Offenders of Imbalance in the
Chronic stress can disrupt cortisol levels and upset the estrogen-progesterone balance.
Poor Sleep: Your body regulates hormones while it sleeps. Without sleep, there's an imbalance of hormones.
Processed food and sugar: These can also trigger increased insulin resistance and inflammation.
Postpartum Changes: Giving birth puts hormones through the wringer.
Perimenopause: the gradual lead-up period towards menopause, most commonly in your 40's or 30's.
How to Know for Sure
You can ask your doctor for the following tests, which measure:
Levels of estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone
TSH, T3, and T4 are
Cortisol levels
Blood sugar level and insulin sensitivity
Pro tip: Speak up for yourself. If you're not feeling right, speak up for testing. You know your body best.
Treatment Options—Because You Deserve to Feel Good
Medical Therapies: hormone replacement therapy (HRT), thyroid medication, the pill (depending on the condition).
Lifestyle Change: Adopt sleep hygiene, healthy diet, and stress management as practiced by royalties
Supplements include magnesium, vitamin D, omega-3 fats, and adaptogens
Holistic Practices: Yoga, chiropractic, acupuncture, and mindfulness
Personal Note by Netta (aka Chatterbrain Mommy)
I didn't know my mood swings, insomnia, and anxiety were linked with hormonal shifts until the day I visited a functional medicine physician for the first time. It was a game-changer. Monitoring my period taught me my body's rhythm—and broke the habit of judging myself as "moody."
How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting: A Mother's Heart
Becoming a mother is the most joyous and unconditional, and indescribable feeling ever. Motherhood is full of moments that pull at your heart.
The love that you feel for your child is unconditional because they are a part of you. You love your child deeply, yet sometimes the exhaustion, the overwhelm, and the feeling of not being heard bubble over until you find yourself raising your voice, even when you don't want to.
This tends to hurt you more than it hurts their feelings. You try to keep a stern face and then when all is well, you go in your secret place…the bathroom. The only place that is sacred enough for you to be alone for 10 minutes or so before the cavalry comes to find you.
There is where you do it. Yes, you let it out. You cry, sob, sniff all at the same time, but quietly.
You didn’t want to raise your voice. They just won’t listen and it hurt you so so bad to you heart to raise your voice.
You ask yourself, "How can I stop yelling when my child just won't listen?" — know this: you're not alone, and there's hope.
The fact that you want to stop yelling does not make you a bad mom. It makes you a gorgeous aware mom who is striving toward a higher way. And the reality is, when we yell, it's not because we're mean. It's because we're frazzled, not being heard ourselves, or longing for connection desperately.
This month is our month. Something that I have been doing since the beginning of 2025 is protecting my peace.
Let’s do this together and let this month be our time to focus on peace over power.
First, Here is a small prayer for you Mom
A Prayer for Mom
Every morning, pray:
"Lord, help me be the safe place my child runs to, not the storm he hides from."
You are already wrapped in grace, Mama. Every moment you pause, breathe, connect, and try again is a victory.
Your child — and your heart — are growing together.
5 Ways to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting
1. Stop Your Body First
As frustration arises, don't speak hastily. Stop your body: keep your hands still, release your shoulders, and breathe into the ground.
Whisper this prayer in your heart: "Holy Spirit, help me respond with peace, not power."
This small shift tells your nervous system that you are okay. You don't have to fight to be heard.
2. Connect Before You Correct
Before giving commands, slow down and bond. Drop down to your child's level. Gently place your hand on their shoulder or take their hand. Say, "Hey buddy, I really need your ears right now."
Kids listen best when they first feel heard, safe, and loved.
3. Use a Firm but Calm Tone
Yelling has a tendency to zone out children, whereas a lowered, stern tone makes them lean in.
You can quietly say, "This is important. Listen carefully." Lower your voice instead of raising it. It not only gains attention but also keeps your own heart peaceful.
4. Establish Clear, Compassionate Consequences
Instead of going on and on and on until frustration erupts, set a quiet boundary:
"You have until I count to 5 to put your shoes on. If not, I'll put them on for you, and it may not be how you like."
Follow up with kindness, not anger. Boundaries can be firm and loving.
5. Forgive Yourself Quickly
You will not be perfect — that's alright. If you shout, pause, take a breath, and model humility:
"Mommy got upset. I'm sorry. Let's try again together."
This teaches your child emotional control even more than never losing your temper would.
A Prayer for June
Every morning, pray:
"Lord, help me be the safe place my child runs to, not the storm he hides from."
You are already wrapped in grace, Mama. Every moment you pause, breathe, connect, and try again is a victory.
Your child — and your heart — are growing together. 🌿
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The Overlooked Struggles – Emotional Well-being of ADHD Moms
Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get enough airtime: the emotional toll of being a mom with ADHD. Sure, we hear a lot about managing chores, routines, and to-do lists, but what about the deep stuff—the guilt, the overwhelm, the constant sense of falling short?
The Hidden Weight ADHD Moms Carry: Being a mom is already a full-time mental load, but add ADHD into the mix, and it becomes a whirlwind of emotional highs and lows. According to a 2022 study published in Journal of Attention Disorders, women with ADHD are more prone to anxiety, depression, and emotional dysregulation, especially during motherhood.
You’re not just trying to manage your own life—you’re managing little humans, expectations, and all the invisible work of motherhood with a brain that resists structure. That’s a LOT.
Emotional Struggles We Don’t Talk About Enough
Guilt: For forgetting appointments, for snapping at the kids, for not having it all together.
Shame: For comparing yourself to the “organized moms” and constantly coming up short.
Overwhelm: The mental noise is never-ending. It’s not just the mess—it’s the emotional chaos that comes with it.
Imposter Syndrome: Feeling like you’re faking this whole motherhood thing and someone’s about to expose you.
Coping Strategies That Actually Help
1. Reframe the Narrative: You’re not a “bad” mom—you have a different brain. Period. Repeat that until it sticks. Use affirmations like, “I’m doing my best, and that’s enough,” or “Progress over perfection.”
2. Therapy Is Not a Luxury—It’s a Lifeline: Consider ADHD-informed therapy or coaching. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) has shown strong results for emotional regulation in adults with ADHD. Coaching can also offer practical, non-judgmental support.
3. Mindfulness, But ADHD-Friendly: Let's not do 60-minute quiet meditations here. Give this a try:
Five-minute guided meditations (check out Insight Timer)
Walking meditations
Doodling or journaling with some tunes playing
4. Join Your Tribe Community is key: Get in touch with other ADHD moms (online or locally). Begin with communities like the Chatterbrain Mommy Podcast community—we keep it real, unfiltered, and judgment-free.
Expert Opinion: Dr. Kathleen Nadeau (clinical psychologist, ADHD) states, "When women feel understood and supported emotionally, their executive functioning improves. Connection reduces shame and motivation."
Netta's Point from Chatterbrain Mommy Podcast "I used to cry in the bathroom just to have five minutes of peace. As soon as I quit pretending to do it all and started getting help, life lightened up. Not perfect—just lighter.".
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Managing Household Chaos: Tips for Moms with ADHD
Let’s be real: managing a household with ADHD is like trying to organize a rave in a wind tunnel. You’ve got kids yelling, dinner burning, and a calendar full of events you forgot to add reminders for. If this sounds like your daily life, welcome to the club. But don’t worry—chaos can be managed.
The ADHD Brain vs. Daily Routines: Moms with ADHD often struggle with executive dysfunction. Translation: starting tasks, prioritizing them, and actually finishing them can feel nearly impossible, especially when there are a million interruptions. According to ADDitude Magazine, routines are a lifeline, but only if they’re flexible, simple, and dopamine-friendly.
Strategy #1: Keep It Simple, Sis (K.I.S.S.) Don’t try to be a Pinterest-perfect planner mama. Use a dry-erase board or a visual daily flow chart for you and the kids. Break things down into mini routines—like a “morning flow” or “evening wind-down”—instead of a strict schedule. ADHD brains thrive with short sprints, not marathons.
Strategy #2: Use ADHD-Friendly Tools. Here’s what can help:
Time Timer: A visual timer that shows how much time is left.
Todoist or Trello: Task apps that let you brain-dump and organize your chaos into boards.
Alexa or Google Assistant: Set up recurring voice reminders and alarms (trust me, lifesaver).
Color-coded calendars: One color per family member = instant sanity.
Strategy #3: Create ADHD-Approved Zones. Think stations—not full-on room overhauls. A snack zone. A homework zone. A drop zone for keys, bags, and all the random stuff. Label everything. Bonus points if it's cute and makes you feel like a boss.
Strategy #4: Boundaries ARE Self-Care. You are not everyone's everything, every second. Set quiet hours, delegate chores (even if they do it “wrong”), and stop saying yes to every school volunteer role. ADHD burnout is real, and you deserve time to breathe.
Therapist Tip: ADHD expert Dr. Sharon Saline says, "Structure combined with empathy is key." That means building a system that works with your brain, not against it, while giving yourself grace.
Interview Spotlight: Netta from Chatterbrain Mommy Podcast “I learned that setting a timer for 15 minutes and blasting 90’s or good ole gospel music while cleaning helps me finish what I start. It’s weird, but it works. ADHD-friendly hacks are all about joy and movement.” — Netta
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Being Everything, Everywhere, All At Once: ADHD and New Motherhood
You recognize that shot in all the motherhood montages of laundry scattered all over, the dinner burning on the stove, the phone constantly ringing, and the baby bawling? Picture that.
But your head is trying to open all the tabs at the same time—new motherhood with ADHD.
ADHD does not magically disappear when we have a baby.
In fact, it goes into hyperdrive.
The sudden removal of routine, the constant demands, the lack of sleep—it can all be fuel on an already burning five-way brain.
For many moms with ADHD, the postpartum experience is a whirlwind of overstimulation, guilt, and self-doubt.
You may catch yourself sobbing because you forgot the diaper bag for the umpteenth time, yelling at your partner because the pacifier was misplaced, or freezing in place because your mind just ceased functioning.
It's not laziness.
It's not incompetence.
It's executive dysfunction, sensory overload, and hormonal shifts hitting all at once.
And guess what? You're not alone.
Most mothers aren't aware they have ADHD until after their baby is born.
School and work tend to camouflage symptoms—but motherhood lays them bare.
It exposes your coping mechanisms, challenges your routines, and pushes you into survival mode.
So, how do you manage?
Here are a few truths from the trenches:
Routine is your ally. Even a loose rhythm can anchor your day.
Lower the bar. Done is better than perfect. Your baby doesn’t care if the bottles are color-coordinated.
Outsource and delegate. No shame in asking for help or using delivery services.
Use your tools. Timers, sticky notes, whiteboards—whatever helps offload mental clutter.
Honor your rest. Sleep deprivation magnifies ADHD symptoms. Nap when you can.
Mothering is tough.
ADHD does not make it any easier.
But you are doing something wonderful—and messy and beautiful.
You're raising an individual while wending your way through a neurodivergent brain.
Are you an ADHA mom?
What was your biggest challenge in the first few weeks?
How did you manage—or what would you have said to yourself sooner?
Mother’s Day Reflections: Embracing the Chaos and Joy of Motherhood with ADHD
Happy Mother's Day to all the mothers, caregivers, guardians, foster mothers, adoptive mothers, grandmothers, and teachers who look after hundreds of children as their own each year.
With Mother's Day today, I sit here pondering the beautiful chaos that comprises my life. Being a mother with ADHD is a life of one-of-a-kind challenges and surprises of delight.
I homeschool my children, work the night shift as a postpartum doula, and operate both an online and bringing our reselling business back to life after my husband’s detrimental accident last year.
It's a life that calls for flexibility, determination, and a sense of humor.
The Dance of Homeschooling with ADHD
Homeschooling with ADHD is like playing an orchestra where each instrument has its own mind. Some days it's beautiful; other days it's a distraction symphony. I've learned that rules are necessary, but so is flexibility. We have a routine, but it's more of a plan than a schedule. If a lesson isn't going well, we change gears. If the sun is shining too brightly to be ignored, we go outside and learn.
Visuals are my favorite things. Bulletin boards, colored charts, and checklists remind us to stay on track. I also use alarms and reminders to help us make it through topic transitions. These are not just for my children—they're for me as well.
Night Shifts and the Art of Adaptation
Working at night as a postpartum doula is another aspect of my already complicated existence. Helping new mothers navigate their most vulnerable moments is immeasurably fulfilling, yet it means my sleep cycle is irregular. I sleep when possible and survive on caffeine and sheer willpower.
This nightlife style requires organization. I precook meals in advance, set study materials out in advance, and talk frankly to my family members about our unique timetable. We're in it together, and I appreciate that they accommodate my schedule.
Building and Rebuilding: The Entrepreneurial Spirit
It's both exciting and exhausting to have an online business and revive my reselling business. ADHD gives rise to a torrent of ideas and the urge for creativity but renders it challenging to concentrate and stay organized.
I've learned to utilize a hyperfocus period for productive time and forgive myself during distraction periods. I organize projects through task management tools to remain on top of tasks and create realistic goals so that I do not end up being burned out. Small successes remind me to remain encouraged and also understand the progress achieved.
The Power of Nature and Daily Grounding
Amidst the turmoil, nature is where I get my sanity. Every day, I spend a minute to step outside, get the grass between my toes, and inhale deeply. It is this little act that grounds me, allowing me to get a moment of peace and concentration. It's a reminder every day that, despite the chaos, there is beauty and peace to be found.
These little doses of the great outdoors aren't just a corrective thing—necessities. They get me back to me and facilitate the emotional grounding required to care for my loved ones and pursue my vocation.
Embracing the Journey with Love and Laughter
Motherhood with ADHD is a journey of self-discovery, resilience, and unshakeable love. It's learning to love the imperfections, finding beauty in small moments, and laughing through the chaos. I've learned to be compassionate with myself, to seek help when needed, and to honor the unique gifts that ADHD brings to my life.
This Mother's Day, I honor all mothers on their individual paths. Your creativity, resilience, and love are the threads that sewn together make up the beautiful tapestry of your family's story.
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How to Manage ADHD Without Losing Your Mind
Treating ADHD is not about fixing a "broken" brain; in fact, treating ADHD is about learning how your own brain works and preparing yourself for success.
There are tested and true strategies that can make a big difference, but what works for one person won't necessarily work for another.
Because living well with ADHD is definitely possible, following are some helpful tools and methods that will serve you well, whether you've just received an official diagnosis or simply wish to bring your daily life under control.
1. Medication (It’s Not a Magic Pill, But It Helps)
Stimulants like Ritalin and Adderall equalize the dopamine levels so that it is simple to focus. Non-stimulants like Strattera also work for some people. Medication is not for everybody, yet for many, it is a game-changer.
2. Behavioral Therapy (Because Your Brain Needs a Personal Trainer Too)
Cognitive behavior therapy, or CBT, is helpful in improving emotional control, reprogramming negative thoughts, and creating healthier habits. Structure and accountability can also be achieved by consulting with an ADHD coach.
3. Lifestyle Hacks for ADHD
Move Your Body: Exercise makes ADHD brains concentrate in addition to being healthy for your physical body. Even a walk makes a difference.
Hack Your Sleep: ADHD and sleep issues go together. Develop a bedtime routine, do not use screens right before bed, and, if you get distracted easily, use white noise.
Feed Your Brain Properly: High-protein diets, omega-3 fatty acids, and complex carbohydrates can all help manage energy and focus. (That mid-day sugar crash? Not your friend.)
4. Productivity Hacks (Because Traditional To-Do Lists Don’t Work for Us)
The Pomodoro Technique: Work for 25 minutes, then break for 5 minutes. Repeat. It prevents your brain from checking out.
Use Alarms & Reminders: Set timers for literally everything—meetings, meals, taking out the trash, you name it.
Body Doubling: Having someone to work with (even virtually) can keep you on track.
Visual Cues: Post-it notes, whiteboards, and color-coded calendars can make tasks easier to follow.
Do the Hard Stuff First: Do difficult tasks first when your brain is most alert (usually at the beginning of the day).
At the end of the day, there is no one-size-fits-all approach to ADHD, but with the proper mix of tools—medication, therapy, lifestyle changes, and productivity techniques—you can develop a system that works with your brain, not against it. Improvement isn't about perfection; it's about purpose.
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How I Overcame Decision Fatigue on My Birthday (And How You Can Too)
Okay, let's talk about something real: decision fatigue. If you have ADHD, you'll know exactly what I'm saying.
It's that mental burnout that happens after making one too many decisions—big or small. You've probably had it happen when you're deciding what to wear, deciding what to eat for the day, or even deciding what to do on your birthday.
And trust me, that last one can get pretty messy.
I recently reached rock bottom with decision fatigue while trying to organize my birthday.
The short version: it was a hot mess.
But after all the hemming and hawing, I managed to sort out a way to wrestle the chaos back into control and push forward.
So I decided to share with you my story and how you can apply these techniques to remain out of the decision spiral.
Decision Fatigue + ADHD = A Recipe for Disaster
Decision fatigue sets in when your brain gets depleted from having too many options.
And if you have ADHD, that depletion is even greater because your brain is already working in overdrive to maintain focus and deal with tasks.
Small decisions turn into mountains. And the more decisions you must make, the worse it is.
I experienced this myself when I was planning to prepare for my birthday.
My original plan? A trip to Florida. Then a massive flight crisis struck as a result of one plane crash after another, and my anxiety skyrocketed completely.
I suddenly didn't know where I was heading or even what I would do.
Should I stick near home?
Should I be traveling somewhere else?
Should I just cancel everything and take a nap?
I was paralyzed by choice.
How I Survived My Birthday Decision Fatigue
This birthday choice started off with a whole lot of "What the heck am I going to do?" I couldn't figure out if I wanted to chill, relax, or some place more active but crowded.
Procrastination came in next. I was continually flipping my brain back and forth, but something didn't feel right.
I didn't want to go too crowded or too out there in the middle of nowhere. Then it hit me: keep it simple.
After much to-and-fro, I finally settled on a low-key plan: something simple.
With my husband's prodding (thank God for him), I chose something that was not too complicated and low-key.
And guess what?
It was just what I needed.
Sometimes, overthinking just adds to the stress.
But that wasn't the initial time I was overcome with decision fatigue that day.
When I visited to get my nails done, the same thing occurred. I hemmed and hawed about colors and designs for eternity. I'm talking about eternity.
Do I be bold?
Do I be basic?
Do I go neutral or bright?
Eventually, I told the nail technician to just freestyle the design, and guess what?
It turned out great!
Having the freedom of not having to decide on everything was a lifesaver.
What You Can Learn from This Chaos
I get it, options can appear to be piling up and you don't know how to break free from the madness. But there are ways of managing decision fatigue so that it doesn't manage your life.
Below are some tips that work for me, and they can work for you, too:
1. Limit the Decisions You Make
This is huge for people with ADHD. The fewer choices you make, the higher. Start off by simplifying your routines—what you eat, what you wear, entertainment. For example, prepare all of your food for the week so you're not faced with making a daily choice of what to eat. If you plan out your wardrobe in advance, you won't be left spending hours gazing at your closet.
2. Use Tools to Stay Organized
Get some structure into your life. Checklists, calendars, and even ADHD-sanctioned apps can save you from spiraling. Writing down your to-do's keeps you organized regarding what needs to be done without needing to make a decision every time you think about it. Further, using timers or the Pomodoro Technique (work for 25 minutes, then break for 5 minutes) can keep you focused and work through tasks without being overwhelmed.
3. Just Prioritize
Not everything has to be a priority. It's easy to get overwhelmed in attempting to decide everything at one time. Rank what really does matter. Cut through the chaos and get on with the serious stuff first. Trust me, you don't need to muddle through all the decisions. My birthday? I made it easy because I knew the rest of the choices would just upset me.
4. Let Someone Else Take the Wheel Sometimes
This is a doozy. If you're in a rut, ask for help. Don't be afraid to let someone else handle something. I was trying to figure out what to do on my birthday, and my husband rescued me by pointing me in the direction of something low-key. Whenever possible, have someone else handle a decision or two, even something as minuscule as picking a nail color or where to eat dinner.
5. Use a Framework for Big Decisions
Having a plan helps a lot. If you're going to make a bigger decision (like travel plans or something work-related), use a simplified model to decide. If you're taking too long to decide, divide the decision into parts. I like to put time limits on decisions. If I don't figure it out within 10 minutes, I make a choice and stick with it.
6. Take Breaks—Seriously
Your brain needs rest, especially when you’re juggling a million decisions. Take frequent breaks throughout your day. Step away from work, take a walk, or even just lie down for a few minutes. This helps clear your mind and avoid feeling totally drained.
7. Give Yourself Permission to Say “I Don’t Know”
You don't have to make all of your choices perfect. Every once in a while, you can just let off the pressure. If you are stuck, feel free to say "I don't know" and try something else. The world won't end if you didn't select the perfect birthday vacation spot or nail color. Actually, accepting imperfection might make you less tense.
To sum it all up, decision fatigue isn't funny, especially when you have ADHD. But it doesn't have to control your life.
The trick is to keep it simple, have boundaries, and realize that not every decision needs to be "the right decision."
From my birthday adventure to getting my nails done, I learned that the best choices happen when you refrain from overanalyzing and simply let go of needing to be perfect.
So the next time you find yourself stuck in a decision-making mode, make it simpler. Prioritize what matters most, step away, and get help when you need it.
Trust me, it'll make a world of a difference.
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My Birthday Reflection on Growth with ADHD
Today is my birthday. And honestly, most birthdays once used to have a tinge of bitterness for me. There was always this undertone of sadness underlying the celebrations, because my mom isn't with me anymore.
Not being able to celebrate this day with her, not getting to hear her voice or catch her hug, left an aching gap which felt hard to fill.
A photo of my beautiful Momma, Dorothy W. Jones, on the right and my, her twin, Netta on the left. This is one of my favorite photos that I will always cherish♥️♥️♥️
But somewhere along the way, I've grown to accept that grief and temper it into something different—into joy, into gratitude, into living my life in her honor.
And today, I am complete. I am at peace. I am at ease. I am ready—with open arms—to welcome whatever God has in store for me.
Reflecting on 42: A Year of Miracles
Looking back over this past year of my life—age 42—I can see how far I've come.
I have accomplished more in one year than I ever could have imagined, and honestly, more than many get to accomplish in a whole lifetime. And I don't say this triumphantly—I say it gratefully.
New Callings and Creative Courage
I began a new profession (my 4th and final career) as a birth and postpartum doula, stepping in intentionally and working with families through some of their most sacred moments.
I launched two publications on Substack, Vent to Victory, where I turn vents of day-to-day life as an ADHDer, mom, wife, and Black woman in America into a victory. The main publication is ADHDventures in Homeschooling, where I talk about the life of homeschooling as a mommy with ADHD, the goods, the chaos, and gratitude.
I began a blog, a podcast (Chatterbrain Mommy), and an e-book that is deeply personal and emotional to my journey.
Connections That Became Chosen Family
With all that, I've encountered some of the sweetest souls—those who've not only advised me but who now are friends, sisters, and chosen family.
They've invested in me just as I've learned to invest in others.
The Radical Shift: Choosing Myself First
But perhaps the most revolutionary of this journey? I've learned to put myself first.
As someone with ADHD, that hasn't always been intuitive. We get pulled in by the hustle, by the whirl of overthinking and overstimulation, constantly chasing after the next thing or trying to "catch up."
But this year, I took my foot off the gas.
I learned to sleep without guilt.
I embraced quiet.
I re-established my spirituality, deepening my connection with God in a way that keeps me centered no matter what's going on around me.
I began to turn about the old habits and replacing them with intentional routines. I found joy within myself. I stopped waiting for peace and instead learned how to create it.
A photo of me as I embrace the beautiful bloom of many flowers, meaning many opportunities arise as I walk in my purpose.
A photo of me as I am so joyful. These flowers were given to me by my baby daughter on my 21st anniversary on 4/13/2025.
Walking Boldly in My Purpose
That's why I'm still strutting my stuff confidently in my ministry as an ADHD life and wellness coach. In spite of the bumps, in spite of the doubt, I know this is what I am called to do.
My coaching website will be live in a few weeks, and I'm already taking pre-appointments.
I've had single-session work that has reminded me how desperately this work is needed—and I'm just so blessed to be creating a successful business where I can come fully, not only for my clients, but for my family as well.
Welcoming 43: A Year for Blooming
This year, 43 is going to be about growth and establishment. Last year was establishing—putting the foundation down. This year is about watering the seeds that I planted last year and watching them bloom.
So stay tuned. God’s not done. I’m walking in my purpose, with love in my heart, and fire in my spirit—and I’m ready to help others do the same.
How to Help Your Homeschool Child Get Organized (When You’re Brain is Unorganized)
The term "organized chaos" isn't just a catchphrase if you're anything like me; it's a way of life. I frequently feel like I'm barely surviving as a mom with ADHD who homeschools. Nevertheless, here I am, attempting to teach my children the same skill that I find most difficult: organizing.
I recognize the irony. The good news is that you don't need to be a naturally organized person to help your children learn how to be organized. Teaching them can actually be a learning experience for both of you. Even if you've never used a planner before, you can still come up with a method that works if you have a little humor, patience, and ingenuity.
Learning Alongside My Kids
I’ll be honest: when I first tried to get my child to organize his homeschool work, it was an absolute disaster. Papers everywhere, lost pencils, and forgotten assignments. I tried color-coded folders, elaborate schedules, and even bought a fancy planner, but within days, it all fell apart.
That’s when I realized I was approaching it the wrong way. Instead of trying to teach a system that I wasn’t even good at, I needed to make it a team effort. So, I reframed my approach:
💡 Instead of "Let me teach you how to be organized," I switched to "Let’s learn this together."
That one change made a world of difference.
1. Start Small & Keep It Simple
Burnout is inevitable if you attempt to change your homeschooling system all at once (for you and your child). Rather, begin with tiny, doable measures.
✅ Choose one thing at a time—maybe organizing their daily assignments or setting up a routine for putting supplies away.
✅ Set a timer for five minutes at the end of the day to do a quick tidy-up of the homeschool area.
What is working for us: We started with a "Clean Desk Challenge." At the end of school or when I want my 6-year-old to clean his toys, we set a timer and spend five minutes organizing our workspace. No pressure, no stress—just a quick reset. Small steps, big impact.
2. Make It Visual (Because ADHD Brains Need It!)
I cannot rely on memory alone to keep us on track. So, I turned to visual supports—the lifeline of every ADHD household.
📌 Charts, color-coded labels, and sticky notes are our best friends.
📖 What worked for us: We created a homeschool binder where my child can see everything at a glance. Inside, we have:
A checklist of subjects for the day
A simple, flexible "unscheduled schedule"
A place to store completed work so nothing gets lost
My son loves checking things off. It gives him a sense of accomplishment, and I love that it keeps him on track without me nagging.
3. Make It a Game (Because Fun = Engagement)
Let’s be real—if it’s not fun, ADHD brains check out. So, we turned organizing into a game.
🎯 How we do it:
We play a game called "Speedy Clean"—where we race against a timer to see who can finish their task first.
My job: Organizing the papers and books
His job: Sorting crayons, markers, and supplies into their proper spots
Guess who wins every time? Hint: It’s not me. 😂
🏆 Bonus Tip: Add rewards! Stickers, small treats, or extra screen time work wonders for motivation.
4. Lead by Example (Even If You Struggle)
This part is hard because—let’s be honest—if I were naturally organized, we wouldn’t be having this conversation. But the truth is, kids learn from what they see, not just what we say.
What worked for us: I started doing one small, visible habit every day—making my bed.
One morning, my son saw me doing it and proudly announced: "I’m going to make my bed too, Mommy!" It wasn’t perfect, but he tried, and that’s what matters.
Moral of the story: Your kids don’t need you to be perfect. They just need to see you trying.
5. Celebrate Progress (Not Perfection)
Organization isn’t about doing things perfectly every time—it’s about building habits.
🙌 How we celebrate: We have "Organization Fridays." Every Friday, we:
Do a quick reset of our homeschool area
Reflect on what worked that week
Treat ourselves to something fun (a movie, game night, or a treat)
These little victories keep us motivated and remind us that progress is more important than perfection.
Final Thoughts: Growing Together
Helping your homeschooled child get organized when you feel entirely unorganized yourself can feel impossible. But the truth is, it’s one of the most humbling and rewarding things you can do.
💡 You don’t have to be a master of organization to teach it. You just have to be willing to learn alongside your child.
💡 The goal isn’t perfection—it’s progress. And along the way, you’re teaching them not just how to arrange their schoolwork, but how to be resilient, adaptable, and problem-solving thinkers.
That’s a win for both of you.
Ready to build systems that work for you and your child? Download my guide, Homeschooling Like a Pro (Even With ADHD!), for more practical tips and strategies to thrive in homeschooling and beyond.
ADHD Isn’t Just About Focus—It’s a Whole Different Way of Experiencing Life!
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ADHD isn't just an issue of being hyper or having a problem focusing—it's about experiencing the world in an entirely different manner.
If you've got ADHD (or think you do), you already know it's not about forgetting your keys for the dozenth time or zoning out in the middle of a discussion.
It's the rollercoaster of hyperfocus one day and utter forgetfulness the next.
It's the struggle of time management, thought organization, and even relationship management.
Some days, you're unstoppable. On other days, you can't remember why you opened the fridge.
Ring a bell?
This vivid image captures a bustling city that never truly stops, where everyday life's vibrant hustle and bustle plays out like a never-ending show. The constant motion and clamor reflect the delightful yet chaotic whirlwind that characterizes the overactive mind of someone with ADHD. It's a beautiful mess, brimming with energy and excitement, yet it often overwhelms one in the vibrant maze.
What Causes ADHD?
ADHD isn’t just about “not trying hard enough” or “being lazy.” It’s a legit brain difference, and science backs it up.
Genetics Play a Big Role
If your parents or siblings have ADHD, there’s a good chance you do too. Studies show that it runs in families.
Brain Chemistry & Structure
Image of the brain lighting up with thoughts and different processes
Focus, motivation, and impulse control are all impacted by the variations in dopamine levels in the brains of people with ADHD. The "control center" of the brain, which is responsible for executive function, doesn't always function the same way in neurotypical brains.
Environmental Factors
Prenatal exposure to drugs, alcohol, or nicotine may increase the chance of ADHD.
Prenatal exposure to drugs, alcohol, or nicotine may elevate the risk of ADHD. Low birth weight and premature birth are linked to a higher likelihood of ADHD.
Some research suggests that early exposure to lead and other chemicals may also play a role.
Low birth weight and premature birth are associated with an increased risk of ADHD.
According to some research, early exposure to lead and other chemicals may also be involved.
ADHD Symptoms: The Three Big Categories
ADHD symptoms are usually grouped into three major categories: inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. You might lean heavily toward one or experience a mix of all three. Here’s what that looks like in real life:
Inattention Symptoms (aka The Scatterbrain Struggles)
You start a task with full enthusiasm, only to abandon it five minutes later because something else caught your eye.
Your workspace looks like a hurricane hit it—papers, coffee cups, and random objects everywhere.
You lose your phone, keys, or wallet at least twice a day. (And they’re always in some weird place, like the fridge.)
You space out in conversations, even when you’re genuinely interested.
You leave projects until the last minute, even though you know it’ll stress you out later.
Keeping a planner sounds like a great idea, but actually using it consistently? Not happening.
Hyperactivity Symptoms (aka The Human Energy Drink)
You tap your foot, click your pen, or bounce your leg constantly—sitting still feels like torture.
You interrupt people mid-sentence, not because you’re rude, but because your brain moves a mile a minute.
You get up and pace while thinking, watching TV, or even talking on the phone.
You talk a lot. Like, a lot. And sometimes realize you’ve been rambling for five minutes straight.
Sitting through a long meeting or lecture? Absolute nightmare.
Impulsivity Symptoms (aka Oops, Did I Just Say That?)
You say things without thinking, which can occasionally result in awkward circumstances.
You make spontaneous decisions without taking into account the advantages and disadvantages; sometimes they turn out well, and other times they go wrong.
You find it difficult to wait your turn in traffic, lines, or conversations. Very impatient because you feel like you are in a rush.
Purchases on impulse are your worst enemy when it comes to online buying, therefore it might be risky.
ADHD Ain’t a Weakness—It’s Just a Different Operating System
Having ADHD doesn’t mean you’re lazy, unmotivated, or incapable.
It just means your brain works differently, and you need to find strategies that fit your style.
Some of the most creative, successful, and innovative people in history had ADHD.
The key is learning how to work with your brain, not against it. Whether it’s medication, therapy, lifestyle changes, or a mix of everything, you can build a system that helps you thrive.
ADHD isn’t a roadblock—it’s just a different way of navigating the world.
Managing ADHD isn’t about "fixing" yourself—it’s about finding the right tools to work with your brain, not against it.
That’s why I created an ADHD Planner to help you stay on track without overwhelm.
You can grab yours now here and start organizing life on your terms!
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What Does ADHD Really Mean? How to Understand the Disorder
Have you ever felt like your thoughts are leaping over each other as a frog jumping over lily pads?
Or have you been unable to concentrate on any particular thing no matter how hard you try?
You are not even the first in the queue; there are many other people out there who live with ADHD, but that is not always how the condition manifests itself - this is actually quite far from the "hyper kid" stereotype that most of us hear.
ADHD isn't just about being distracted or impulsive. It's something that affects your whole life instead.
You will need to understand it much more than just how it happens in the brain of those directly affected and how this sometimes ties to school, friends, or even what career one can choose from.
The unique ADHD brain has thoughts that are all over the place and unorganized from old to new (not in that order).
What Exactly Is ADHD?
At its essence, ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) is a neurodevelopmental disorder. That means it impairs an individual’s ability to have normal development and functioning of the brain in areas like attention, focus, and self-regulation.
It's generally regarded as a childhood disorder, but many adults are still very much affected by ADHD, some without knowing until years later.
Some of the targets that people diagnosed with such an impairment will generally have problems with include task completion, memory for details, impulse control, or even simply being still when needed.
However, ADHD is not going to manifest itself the same for everybody; there are different ways it can present itself.
Individuals may have one symptom while others may encounter the entire battery of challenges.
The Three Most Common Types of ADHD
As with virtually every other disorder, ADHD expresses itself differently, and doctors mostly classify the condition into three types, according to which symptomatology predominates.
Let's look into the three major recognized categories of ADHD:
1. ADHD, Inattentive Type
Truly typical for most girls, but in fact, it's largely neglected and even missed because it is not accompanied by the hyperactivity that most people associate with the condition.
People with the inattentive type tend to be primarily affected by their inability to pay attention because they are forgetful and easily distracted.
Their inability to finish tasks, misinterpret directions, or keep track of things is disturbing for them.
Identifying the disorder early is harder for a person who does not talk loudly or disrupts.
Symptoms are less visible, which can make it seem bad when interpreted as laziness or lack of effort.
With children, it might appear as daydreaming in class or seeming "spaced out," but with adults, this could manifest as forgotten meetings or deadlines that come and go.
Example: Some students tend to be inattentive in class, as they rarely try to pay attention during lectures. Regularly forget to submit homework, and have difficulty organizing their study activities.
This is the inattentive type of ADHD.
They may not be acting out or disruptive, but a struggle to concentrate can affect their academic ability with the increment of frustration on the part of teachers and parents.
2. ADHD, Hyperactive-Impulsive Type
Hyperactivity and Impulsivity are the defining characteristics of this type. People with this type of ADHD can never sit still.
They feel restless most times, talk too much, and act impulsively without thinking through the consequences.
Such symptoms make this type of ADHD probably the most conspicuous, particularly in children, when they transform into "always on the go or have to be scolded because they make impulsive decisions."
People with spastic-impulsive kind of ADHD may interrupt a conversation, blurting out the answers without raising their hands, or may be very easily irritated if something does not happen in someone's way.
As adults, they might be having problems controlling impulses while socializing, think twice before making random decisions regarding buying an impulse item that disturbs their serenity, or become easily annoyed when they feel they're losing their grip on the situation.
Example: An individual with ADHD, hyperactive-impulsive type, may find it difficult to sit in a classroom, interrupt conversations, or blurt out answers without waiting for their turn.
As adults, it may turn into a degree of impatience, talking out of turn, or a disposition to disregard the thoughts of how their actions affect others.
3. ADHD, Combined Type
Almost everyone is aware of the fact that ADHD has a little bit more than just inattention and hyperactivity-impulsivity under its umbrella.
The one form of combined-type ADHD is a blend of manifestations resembling the other two types.
The symptoms include the inability to concentrate on things-they become quickly distracted-but they also are restive, impulsive, and have difficulty sitting still.
Combined-type ADHD usually poses unique problems; the individual feels tugged in two distinct directions between paying attention to a task and feeling an urge to be moving about or acting impetuously.
This could lead to difficulties in the completion of tasks and organization, as well as consequences on important commitments.
Example: People with combined-type ADHD may have trouble finishing tasks, forgetting important dates, or getting distracted by outside stimuli; however, at the same time, they may engage in impulsive behavior, such as calling out in meetings, jumping from one task to the other and failing to complete any, or simply not sitting still for long.
The 4 Lesser-Known Types of ADHD
While the three main types are the ones most often discussed, variations of ADHD that are not-so-commonly heard and talked about abound.
These types do not formally belong to an official diagnosis category, but they explain how ADHD can present in its unique and oftentimes, misunderstood forms.
These are intriguing and if you do not resonate with the first three, here are the lesser-known types.
1. ADHD, Overfocused Type
This type becomes hooked upon a particular task, thought, or idea, whereby changing attention amounts to doing something very difficult.
This may translate into perfectionism, worry, or an inability to release an idea even if it had had unproductive consequences.
An individual with an overfocused ADHD may from time to time get trapped into repeated thought patterns, being unable even to release tiny mistakes or past disappointments.
Such people might get so immersed in a current detail as to lose touch with the great extent that could either be at work or in full-blown relationships, or even self-care.
They may end up feeling pretty much distressed and anxious if ever they fail to solve a headache or end something to their very own standards, which may result in burnout.
Persons suffering from overfocused ADHD are excellent in concentrating on one thought, one task, or one idea to the point that changing their attention to anything else is about impossible.
It will lead to perfectionism, over-worry, or an inability to let go of an idea that is no longer productive. Individuals thus "stuck" get really trapped into repetitive thought patterns. They often lack the capacity to forget the small mistakes or past disappointments.
For them, sometimes keeping track of too much detail loses the big picture-as in work, relationships, or even in the area of self-care.
They are frustrated, anxious, and often burned out because they usually have not managed to fix a problem or complete something to their own specs requirements.
Example: We all know such people who toil on a project for hours, sparing no effort in fine-tuning it even when it is done.
They may drag their feet on leaving behind anything that's remotely imperfect or detail-crazy and find themselves lost in this trap of not moving on to the next task.
2. ADHD, Rejection Sensitive Type
Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) is a condition that creates acute sensitivity to real or imagined rejection, criticism, or failure and can be generally found in individuals with ADHD.
Unlike rejection, the strong emotional response elicited by failure maintains, feelings of hopelessness, anger, or deep guilt being felt by the individuals who experience it the most.
They may regard constructive criticism as an affront to their self-image.
For example, they might avoid situations in which they might feel rejected or criticized or become upset at the slightest hint or suggestion of criticism. It interferes with relationships throughout their life.
Example: An adult with RSD-ADHD is likely to be broken down by the constructive criticism received at work. This is quite ironic, because it's supposed to help and not otherwise.
However, this adult will avoid certain situations that are likely to trigger such feelings as, for instance, having to try new things such as looking for another job-qualified applicant or some comparable social inputs.
Such performance in an adult person with rejection-sensitive ADHD could very easily leave a person devastated after he/she receives constructive feedback at his/her workplace.
Even though it is meant to help the person do better or improve, the outcome does not leave the person feeling encouraged having heard the bad criticism at work.
That person may avoid some situations that may invite fear of judgment, or he/she would avoid applying for jobs, new ones, and perhaps social engagements out of fear of rejection or criticism.
3. ADHD, Creative/Innovative Type
This type of ADHD tends to coincide with limitless creativity and out-of-the-box thinking, partly because there are difficulties implementing and executing their ideas.
While creativity may be an asset, focusing, planning, and executing are the challenges.
This type of ADHD is often seen in entrepreneurs, artists, and other highly creative individuals.
These people might hop from one creatively stimulating idea to yet another without any follow-through.
They could dream something up that is truly marvelous, but once it comes to completing the actualization of the project, it usually falls flat.
The real dilemma is maintaining focus and moving on from concept to conclusion.
Example: This kind of individual may have great commercial or creative ideas but find it difficult to see them through to completion.
Due to organizational and concentration issues, they may frequently begin new projects or creative endeavors but seldom see them through to completion.
4. ADHD, “Smart” Type
Individuals like this are generally very intelligent; yet, ADHD symptoms interfere with their capability to work consistently.
Sometimes, their high intelligence is a mask for their difficulties, as they can compensate in good measure in some areas with their natural talents.
Still, they may have problems with organizing work, keeping their focus for the duration of long-term projects, or even finishing tasks.
They excel at solving theoretical problems yet neglect the practicalities of doing the daily chores.
The disparity between intelligence and daily implementation brings frustration, for they seem lazy or disorganized when just the opposite is true: the ADHD truly interferes with daily functioning.
Example: Highly educated people with ADHD may fly through a class without studying, but they may also forget deadlines or not turn in assignments.
Because they can succeed in some areas without exerting the same amount of work that others might require, their symptoms may go unnoticed despite their seeming laziness or disorganization.
Why Understanding ADHD Is So Important
This means that understanding ADHD entails looking beyond mere symptoms to how these symptoms affect every aspect of the person suffering from it.
From academic performance to relationship difficulties, the hurdles emanating from ADHD could be insurmountable if left unattended.
But with a fairly good insight into ADHD, therapeutic options—be it therapy, medication, or a lifestyle change—begin to surface.
Understanding ADHD could act as a welcome relief to their lives by aiding them in negotiating daily existences.
Knowing what kind of ADHD you have can inform your do's and don'ts in coping strategies; it can also enhance self-awareness and acceptance.
Knowing what works for you given your specific type of ADHD can help you construct systems that play to your strengths rather than attempting to force yourself into one-size-fits-all approaches.
For family members, teachers, or employers, insight into ADHD can help better place support and accommodations.
This enhances communication and minimizes frustration while creating an enriching environment for those with ADHD.
Once people do understand what ADHD is, little changes can be made: providing more structure, using visual aids, or simply being patient through hard moments.
Treatment and Coping Strategies
Although there isn't a single, universal method for handling ADHD, there are a number of useful therapies and techniques:
Medication (stimulants like Adderall, Ritalin, and non-stimulants) can help improve focus and impulse control, especially for those with more severe symptoms.
Therapy (like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) helps develop coping strategies for emotional regulation, time management, and problem-solving.
Lifestyle changes, such as regular exercise, healthy eating, and structured routines, can also have a significant impact on ADHD symptoms. For instance, getting enough sleep, practicing mindfulness, and sticking to a daily schedule can provide much-needed stability.
In addition to this, support systems, such as understanding family members, ADHD coaches, or support groups, can offer crucial direction and encouragement. Speaking with people who have gone through similar things might help you feel less alone and develop coping mechanisms that you can use in everyday life.
Conclusion
ADHD cannot just be reductionist characterized or sidewise by "distracted" or "hyper." It's multifaceted: An intricate disorder in people's behavior, thoughts, and interaction with the environment.
People have different experiences with ADHD, ranging from the three major and regularly known types to less known forms, but once we come to understand those variations in terms of functioning in everyday life, we have begun to create conditions that allow the person with ADHD to flourish and use their strengths. With the right tools, encouragement, and attitude, ADHD can be a lifelong battle but can be a journey toward success and growth instead of that.
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Why You're Failing at ADHD: Undiagnosed and Misdiagnosed in Black Women
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Jessica Felicio
As a Black Woman with ADHD, I was both misdiagnosed and undiagnosed as a teenager and as an adult. I was a busy child, but not busy enough to be considered hyperactive.
I was considered to be busy, not bad, because my mama didn’t want me to have the concept that I was bad or had behavior issues. Another symptom that I had when I was a kid was that I was a “chatterbox.”
Well, that hasn’t changed much at all, and sometimes my mouth moves faster than my mind. I talked for hours about different things, and I was just considered gifted.
I knew how to behave when in public and was just simply silly acting when at home. My parents did not look at me as if something was wrong with me because I was deemed to be so intelligent.
They thought this because, according to my teachers and how they observed me, I learned objectives faster than the average child my age and retained so much information.
Now, I cannot say this in today’s day and time because I have more of a “chatterbrain.”
Fast forward to today’s time. As an adult, I was misdiagnosed as having ADD for years, beginning at age 31.
The first psychiatrist and therapist that I saw stated that I had ADD because my attention span was very short during my sessions and I did not make eye contact for a long period.
Since they weren’t my boo thang, I didn’t realize that I had to look them in the eye, so why would I do so in the first place?
In my eyes, they were simply there to know my business and not to help with anything that I couldn’t help with myself.
Then I went to one psychiatrist, and she informed me that my diagnosis was incorrect.
I was appalled because I knew that I did have attention issues. The psychiatrist based their diagnosis on what was observed and talked about in the office, as well as any notes that the therapist wrote in their sessions.
I was then given the correct diagnosis of having ADHD.
Both my therapist and psychiatrist explained to me the symptoms that I resonated with as to why I now have ADHD and not ADD.
'What's wrong with me?' ADHD undiagnosed in Black girls
This type of misdiagnosis happens all the time to Black women specifically.
Some psychiatric physicians will not look deeply into what is going on with the patient based on their symptoms, conversation, or how they are acting. Instead, these physicians will just come up with something on their own or look it up online without really utilizing observation or testing.
When the physicians do this, they will just prescribe a specific medication, which entails more issues than before.
Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. ~Aristotle
Overall, there is no better teacher than you.
It is important to understand your diagnosis and not self-diagnose but to know what is going on with your body and mind.
This will save a lot of misdiagnosing and underdiagnosing time for physicians if there is a clearer understanding to begin with.
This all starts with recognizing symptoms and knowing when something isn’t quite right.
Have you ever been undiagnosed or misdiagnosed with a mental illness?
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