How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting: A Mother's Heart
Becoming a mother is the most joyous and unconditional, and indescribable feeling ever. Motherhood is full of moments that pull at your heart.
The love that you feel for your child is unconditional because they are a part of you. You love your child deeply, yet sometimes the exhaustion, the overwhelm, and the feeling of not being heard bubble over until you find yourself raising your voice, even when you don't want to.
This tends to hurt you more than it hurts their feelings. You try to keep a stern face and then when all is well, you go in your secret place…the bathroom. The only place that is sacred enough for you to be alone for 10 minutes or so before the cavalry comes to find you.
There is where you do it. Yes, you let it out. You cry, sob, sniff all at the same time, but quietly.
You didn’t want to raise your voice. They just won’t listen and it hurt you so so bad to you heart to raise your voice.
You ask yourself, "How can I stop yelling when my child just won't listen?" — know this: you're not alone, and there's hope.
The fact that you want to stop yelling does not make you a bad mom. It makes you a gorgeous aware mom who is striving toward a higher way. And the reality is, when we yell, it's not because we're mean. It's because we're frazzled, not being heard ourselves, or longing for connection desperately.
This month is our month. Something that I have been doing since the beginning of 2025 is protecting my peace.
Let’s do this together and let this month be our time to focus on peace over power.
First, Here is a small prayer for you Mom
A Prayer for Mom
Every morning, pray:
"Lord, help me be the safe place my child runs to, not the storm he hides from."
You are already wrapped in grace, Mama. Every moment you pause, breathe, connect, and try again is a victory.
Your child — and your heart — are growing together.
5 Ways to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting
1. Stop Your Body First
As frustration arises, don't speak hastily. Stop your body: keep your hands still, release your shoulders, and breathe into the ground.
Whisper this prayer in your heart: "Holy Spirit, help me respond with peace, not power."
This small shift tells your nervous system that you are okay. You don't have to fight to be heard.
2. Connect Before You Correct
Before giving commands, slow down and bond. Drop down to your child's level. Gently place your hand on their shoulder or take their hand. Say, "Hey buddy, I really need your ears right now."
Kids listen best when they first feel heard, safe, and loved.
3. Use a Firm but Calm Tone
Yelling has a tendency to zone out children, whereas a lowered, stern tone makes them lean in.
You can quietly say, "This is important. Listen carefully." Lower your voice instead of raising it. It not only gains attention but also keeps your own heart peaceful.
4. Establish Clear, Compassionate Consequences
Instead of going on and on and on until frustration erupts, set a quiet boundary:
"You have until I count to 5 to put your shoes on. If not, I'll put them on for you, and it may not be how you like."
Follow up with kindness, not anger. Boundaries can be firm and loving.
5. Forgive Yourself Quickly
You will not be perfect — that's alright. If you shout, pause, take a breath, and model humility:
"Mommy got upset. I'm sorry. Let's try again together."
This teaches your child emotional control even more than never losing your temper would.
A Prayer for June
Every morning, pray:
"Lord, help me be the safe place my child runs to, not the storm he hides from."
You are already wrapped in grace, Mama. Every moment you pause, breathe, connect, and try again is a victory.
Your child — and your heart — are growing together. 🌿
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