Why We Love ADHD and the Veteran Mom (And You Should, Too!)
Where new motherhood is a tornado, veteran motherhood with ADHD is a never-ending juggling game—school drops and missed field trips, snacks to pack and doctor's appointments to rearrange, and that pile of clean laundry on the couch for three days.
The truth?
ADHD is not less with age—it just becomes more sneaky.
And a few years into motherhood, you will find you see how that forgetfulness, impulsivity, or short temper is not merely an issue of a "mom brain."
It is the ADHD you've carried around your whole life, now wearing a supermom cape and asking for a break.
For most of us, being an ADHD veteran mom is also a feeling of disappointing someone on a daily basis.
There is the guilt: missing spirit day, not reading emails from school, spacing out during your kid's grand tale about playground gossip.
Your care is genuine—it's just your brain is a decade in on mental multitasking.
Let's get real here, the expectations just pile up.
You're cooking healthy dinners, helping with homework, organizing birthday parties, working on your own career, and cleaning the house, AND having time for self-care?
That's a three-person, full-time job.
How do seasoned ADHD mothers keep it all together?
Systems, not willpower. Don’t rely on memory. Use reminders, set automatic billing, and use family calendars with your spouse or older children.
Understand your cycles. Mornings are crazy, but evenings are calmer. Organize your to-do list based on the energy levels of your brain.
Don't compare. Your neighbor's Pinterest-perfect party is not your territory—and that is just fine.
Impose your manner upon your children. Tell them you do things differently, and it is fine to ask you to remind them or to repeat themselves.
Celebrate what you DO get done. Getting everybody out the door (sort of in clothes) is a triumph.
Veteran ADHD mothers have a silent shame, a feeling that by now, we should have this sorted.
But the reality is, working with ADHD is not about being perfect—it's about creating systems that serve you and letting go of those that don’t.
We require more conversations about what ADHD looks like as you age, not fewer.
Why?
Because guess what?
You are not a hot mess—it is that you are doing the best you're capable of with the brain you have.
What are some of the routines or tricks that have saved your sanity as a long-time mom with ADHD?
What have you had to release to achieve peace?
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Managing Household Chaos: Tips for Moms with ADHD
Let’s be real: managing a household with ADHD is like trying to organize a rave in a wind tunnel. You’ve got kids yelling, dinner burning, and a calendar full of events you forgot to add reminders for. If this sounds like your daily life, welcome to the club. But don’t worry—chaos can be managed.
The ADHD Brain vs. Daily Routines: Moms with ADHD often struggle with executive dysfunction. Translation: starting tasks, prioritizing them, and actually finishing them can feel nearly impossible, especially when there are a million interruptions. According to ADDitude Magazine, routines are a lifeline, but only if they’re flexible, simple, and dopamine-friendly.
Strategy #1: Keep It Simple, Sis (K.I.S.S.) Don’t try to be a Pinterest-perfect planner mama. Use a dry-erase board or a visual daily flow chart for you and the kids. Break things down into mini routines—like a “morning flow” or “evening wind-down”—instead of a strict schedule. ADHD brains thrive with short sprints, not marathons.
Strategy #2: Use ADHD-Friendly Tools. Here’s what can help:
Time Timer: A visual timer that shows how much time is left.
Todoist or Trello: Task apps that let you brain-dump and organize your chaos into boards.
Alexa or Google Assistant: Set up recurring voice reminders and alarms (trust me, lifesaver).
Color-coded calendars: One color per family member = instant sanity.
Strategy #3: Create ADHD-Approved Zones. Think stations—not full-on room overhauls. A snack zone. A homework zone. A drop zone for keys, bags, and all the random stuff. Label everything. Bonus points if it's cute and makes you feel like a boss.
Strategy #4: Boundaries ARE Self-Care. You are not everyone's everything, every second. Set quiet hours, delegate chores (even if they do it “wrong”), and stop saying yes to every school volunteer role. ADHD burnout is real, and you deserve time to breathe.
Therapist Tip: ADHD expert Dr. Sharon Saline says, "Structure combined with empathy is key." That means building a system that works with your brain, not against it, while giving yourself grace.
Interview Spotlight: Netta from Chatterbrain Mommy Podcast “I learned that setting a timer for 15 minutes and blasting 90’s or good ole gospel music while cleaning helps me finish what I start. It’s weird, but it works. ADHD-friendly hacks are all about joy and movement.” — Netta
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